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21 Day No Complaint Challenge

“Man, this is gonna be hard.” Beep, start again.

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21 Days, No Complaining, No Rumors, No Problem? It is harder than it looks.

About 18 months ago I challenged 10 of my coworkers to the challenge all for a single purpose; to have others along for the ride while I attempted to change my mindset toward a positive, result oriented focus. As motivation, I offered a reward for the first person who completed the challenge. It was based on the honor system, with a couple of friends thinking it would be a cake walk.

It took me a total of 58 days to complete, which included quitting my job, travelling to Cuba, and starting a business. No one has stepped up to claim their prize.  So when my friends approached me last week to start the challenge over, I agreed in about 3 seconds.

We started on Monday morning, technically at midnight.  Depending on when you woke up, you already had a 5-8 hour head start.

To refresh what the challenge is all about, here are the rules:

Refrain from complaining or gossiping for a total of 21 days.
To remind you of your challenge, you can order a bracelet from the original creator’s website, A Complaint Free World, or use the widget on your computer. I have found that the bracelet works much better as you can’t take you 24 inch monitor with you to the post office or coffee shop. We used LiveStrong bracelets as they are readily available.

If at some point you catch yourself complaining, or someone else catches you, restart at day 0.
I can be pretty simple too, “Man I hate the rain” or “What a jerk”. Three words, reset. Switch your bracelet to the opposite wrist and restart the count.

A complaint can be offered, as long a solution is offered with it.*
By offering a solution, you complaint is still valid, and others are willing to listen and more importantly help you solve it. No one wants to be around someone who complains, but they do want to be around someone who can solve issues.

*Modification from the original challenge. Offers the opportunity to practice a result oriented focus.

I will dedicate a future post to what I found changed in my mindset, how others responded, and how hard it actually is.

So stay tuned for my progress, I will update frequently on twitter.

Question: Have you tried it? Do you want to join our current challenge?

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How Do You See It?

It is all how you identify it in your mind.

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Transport back in the future, about 12 years should do it. I had just graduated from college and flopped at my first job. It was in the field, working 20-25 days a month, in the middle of nowhere, and hating every minute of it. Once I returned to Calgary my girlfriend (who ended up marrying me in 2006) suggested that I read this book called ‘Awaken the Giant Within’.

I resisted at first. It is my nature to want to do the opposite of what others suggest.

I hate to admit it, but reading it really changed my life. I took the advice in the book and tried to implement as much as I could. Immediately things started to turn around. I found a job which led me to the career that I wanted and I continue to enjoy it today.

The one part that stuck with me all these years was Anthony’s comment about your state of mind; how you identify a problem in your mind will determine your outlook. He tells it in a story that goes something like this:

Two brothers, one a high powered executive and the other arguably less successful , are interviewed about the path their life has taken. Their father was as abusive to their mother and to both of them. When both were asked why they ended up at this position in their lives, they both responded “with the childhood I had, what else could I have become?”

It is all how you identify it in your mind; a positive mind set will change the way you look at yourself, the way others look at you, and the outcome of a situation. I don’t know about you, but I want to be around people who effect my life positively. Who am I kidding, I know that is what you want as well.

There are many ways to train your mind to respond positively to adverse conditions; be it a triathlon, boring meeting, or mid-fight with the wife. Anthony suggests a 10 day challenge where you resist the temptation to speak or think a negative thought. Sounds tough? It is, but it sure helped despite not getting past day 3 on several attempts. I have also completed the 21 Day No Complaint Challenge which I found helped establish not only a positive, but a solution focused mid set.

It has changed my life and is definitely worth it.

Question: What do you see?


21 Day No Complaint Challenge

“Man, this is gonna be hard.” Beep, start again.

No-Complaining-Allowed-How-To-Handle-Negative-Comments-Online

21 Days, No Complaining, No Rumors, No Problem? It is harder than it looks.

About 18 months ago I challenged 10 of my coworkers to the challenge all for a single purpose; to have others along for the ride while I attempted to change my mindset toward a positive, result oriented focus. As motivation, I offered a reward for the first person who completed the challenge. It was based on the honor system, with a couple of friends thinking it would be a cake walk.

It took me a total of 58 days to complete, which included quitting my job, travelling to Cuba, and starting a business. No one has stepped up to claim their prize.  So when my friends approached me last week to start the challenge over, I agreed in about 3 seconds.

We started on Monday morning, technically at midnight.  Depending on when you woke up, you already had a 5-8 hour head start.

To refresh what the challenge is all about, here are the rules:

Refrain from complaining or gossiping for a total of 21 days.
To remind you of your challenge, you can order a bracelet from the original creator’s website, A Complaint Free World, or use the widget on your computer. I have found that the bracelet works much better as you can’t take you 24 inch monitor with you to the post office or coffee shop. We used LiveStrong bracelets as they are readily available.

If at some point you catch yourself complaining, or someone else catches you, restart at day 0.
I can be pretty simple too, “Man I hate the rain” or “What a jerk”. Three words, reset. Switch your bracelet to the opposite wrist and restart the count.

A complaint can be offered, as long a solution is offered with it.*
By offering a solution, you complaint is still valid, and others are willing to listen and more importantly help you solve it. No one wants to be around someone who complains, but they do want to be around someone who can solve issues.

*Modification from the original challenge. Offers the opportunity to practice a result oriented focus.

I will dedicate a future post to what I found changed in my mindset, how others responded, and how hard it actually is.

So stay tuned for my progress, I will update frequently on twitter.

Question: Have you tried it? Do you want to join our current challenge?